Self-care is a huge catchphrase right now. But it’s making the concept of self-care trivial and superficial.
What Self Care Really Is:
Self-care is about your mindset and your whole person and is for everyone, not just women. We often think self-care is a feminine thing… getting your hair done or going for a massage.
But it’s not only about primping and taking the occasional bath.
Self-care is about who you are, how you see yourself, and your value… your worth! It’s about honoring who you are with adoration and affirmation.
Let’s think about it another way. If you have children and you have a quiet moment, what are your thoughts about your child? Is it “oh my gosh, I love her, she is so unique and I want everything for her”.
Self-care is doing that for yourself. Loving yourself and creating the life you want.
What Self-Care is Not:
Self-care is not just getting a message or squeezing ‘something’ into your life so that you can feel cared for. It’s not getting something on the calendar just so you can have an hour for yourself.
This is just causing you more stress! One more thing to put on your to-do list. This is not enough for true self-care. Self-care isn’t an achievement mindset. Check, took my bubble bath for the month.
This is every indication that you’ve deprioritized yourself and you’re now anchoring the stress in this hour of “self-care”.
This won’t sustain your equilibrium. Those good feelings and positive experiences for that hour should make you want to create a life of it.
What Does Self-Care Start With?
It starts with how you see yourself!
I wish I could wave a magic wand so that this sinks into the core of who you are!
Every one of us is magnificent and authentic. You are worthy and you’re loveable.
Once this sinks in, everything from there changes. Wouldn’t this inspire you to treat yourself well?
It comes down to staying centered in this truth all day. Not just throwing it out the window after your massage or bubble bath. Taking it into your relationships, into your boundaries, into your schedule.
If you always come back to loving yourself and do it actively, you’ll notice the change. It’s okay to orbit around yourself. It’s not selfish. You are in charge of your life and you have to take it up yourself.
You are amazing, honor that, so that you can have the most beautiful life possible.
Do you want this for yourself? Are you ready to live in this truth, but not sure where to begin?